Dating Advice for Men- Attracting Tips, How to Talk to Girls

Back in college something happened to my older brother that made him realize this very fact:

Women are attracted to men of status.

At first glance, you might think that women who are attracted to men of status are the same kind of women who marry old, dying rich men just to secure their fortune once their pace maker stops.

But I am here to give you the hard truth.

All women are attracted to men of status.

Here’s why:

1. Women only fall in love with men they respect, and status puts you in a “respectable” position in society.

Even the most famous wife of all time (The Proverbs 31 wife) was attracted to status. This is proof that the appeal of status is not reserved for just your average lowly gold digger. The Proverbs 31 wife was an outstanding character, a woman many men want to marry, and a woman revered by many wives and wives to-be.

You think the entire chapter was just about her Uh-mazing qualities, but if you read closely, it mentions her husband!

Proverbs 31:23

“Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.”

… which says something about being with a great woman. Amazing women want to be with respected, respectable men. Plain and simple.

Maybe you know some loser of a guy who has a hot girlfriend. She’s fed up with his loserish ways but never leaves him. You’re thinking, What about that guy? And I’m telling you, she may be with him, but that doesn’t necessarily mean she’s attracted to him. She’s probably LOSING her attraction for him! Women hold onto relationships like a bad habit sometimes. Sometimes it’s being codependent. Sometimes it’s the fear of being alone. Sometimes you’re just afraid of the unknown. It could be many things, but it is definitely not because she’s head over heels wanting-to-jump-on-a-couch like Tom Cruise kinda attraction.

2. Leadership is hot.

Women are attracted to men who take risks and who dive into responsibility. You know what’s NOT attractive? A man who’s only goal in life is to please you. Women want to know you have other hobbies, other goals, other ambitions. And in those ambitions, if you step up to the plate and take the risk and the responsibility of leading others toward a goal, it’s just THAT much hotter. Think of Mel Gibson in Braveheart. Women have their eye on the leader of the pack! He is the alpha male and the MAN among men. If other men look up to you, it’s hot! It says something about your character when other men want to follow your lead. Again, it shows respectibility. And nothing is hotter than a man who can gain our respect.

3. Status creates a platform. Women notice. And that causes other women to notice.

So being in a position of status means that men look up to you or follow your lead, yes?

At the same time, women also take notice.

Let’s go back to my brother, Dee. One semester in college, being relatively unknown, he started pursuing women with no luck. Fast forward one semester later when he became Religious Vice President of the entire university. Women started taking notice. He started having a little “following.” When you have a couple women start thinking you’re cool, their friends start taking notice. And that effect has everything to do with status. Soon enough, he realized that women were starting to get really “friendly” with him. Women started obviously crushing on him.

It’s that same effect that you see even in the blogosphere. When you visit a site that has no “following,” you may become interested, you may not. But when you go to a site that has a huge following, immediately you start thinking, Hmmm, there must be something cool about this blog. Let me stick around to check out what others already have concluded is worth following.

And this same phenomena happens with men of status. They have a platform for others to take notice, and popularity breeds more popularity. That’s just the nature of the beast, which leads me to my last point:

4. Women are attracted to “likability.”

Women instinctively know that the identity of the man they are intimately associated with will be read by others as part of her own identity.

Think of the First Lady. Or Princess Kate Middleton. In these extreme cases, they have a position of respectability merely because they are married to men of status.

Women want to be loved and adored by men, but women want to be respected, liked and admired by other women.

In a way, status just shows likability by a large group of people. Women are naturally socializers because we are the “cooperative,” “community oriented” gender.

Because of this, women want men who have a network of associates. She wants to have parties to go to, dinner parties to host. She wants to mingle in society. In order to do that, she has to be with someone who others know and like. Status provides all of this.

She’s more likely to date the guy who has male friends instead of the hermit.

I know status matters to women because deep down we just want to be with someone we can respect. When others have given a man honor and recognition by giving him a title or a position, it is just valid, tangible proof that a man has respectibility.

In my dating history, I’ve noticed that I have gravitated to men of power, status, social standing, leadership positions.

I have dated the college peer choir director. I’ve been attracted to the band leader. I married a general foreman. I dated a guy who became the sheriff. I crushed hard on the unattainable missionary leader who every woman in my university wanted.

What does status say of a man?

• It says, “I’m doing something with my life and people are noticing.”
• It says, “I’m not lazy.”
• It says, “I’m responsible.”
• It says, “I’m respectable.”
• It says, “I’m likable.”
• It says, “People have put their confidence in me.”
• It says, “I work hard to get recognition and to make a difference.”
• It says, “I make good use of my time.”
• It says, “I’m ambitious.”
• It says, “I know what I want, and I’m willing to work hard for it.”
• It says, “I’m socially adept and intelligent.”
• It says, “I am confident in my abilities and skill.”</

Remember how I always say confidence is the HOTTEST trait of all time?

Guys, do you see? What’s NOT to love about these messages?

Ladies, can you relate to any of the points I’ve made? Have you noticed yourself becoming attracted to men of status?

Guys, have you ever experienced the effect that status has on attracting women?

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