Dating Advice for Men- Attracting Tips, How to Talk to Girls

The No. 1 mistake men make is that they feel a need to talk dirty to women
in order to get them turned on. Men will spend days thinking about what the right sexual words are to say, how to say them and the mechanics behind why they should be saying it.Do you want to know how to seduce her? You have to believe that you’re the best lover that she will ever have. With every woman I’ve have ever slept with, I have always believed that I will be her best lover — period.

The first kiss

You’ve got to pay attention to the details, and it all starts with the first kiss.  After I go in for the first kiss, I always like to leave her wanting a little bit more. That’s confidence, guys. When she feels like you want more, take it back a step. When she feels like you know exactly what you’re doing, she will get really turned on. The first kiss is nothing more than a peck on the lips, then pulling back and making direct eye contact with her. When I do finally kiss her, I always feel out and match her kissing style. I’ll make sure that my tongue moves just the way her tongue moves, whether it’s hard or soft, a bit rough, or more reserved and gentle. This way she feels like she’s actually being kissed by a guy who is in tune with her.

Touching her

When I touch her, I do so very slowly, and I pay close attention to detail. It’s
all about the seduction process. The slower I seduce and the more patient I am, the more she’s going to open up sexually. I always make sure that her pleasure comes first.  When I know that I am going to have sex with a woman for the very first time, I’ll make sure that she climaxes first. I’ll usually go down on her, then I’ll look up at her as I am going down and ask her how she likes it. Faster or slower? More pressure? Are you enjoying it? It’s for her pleasure, but a lot of it is because I’ve got my ego, too. I want to learn everything that turns her on.   Most of the time, she will say, “I like it exactly the way you’re doing this.” The reason is because she knows that, above all, she feels safe in my presence and that she can express herself sexually. When it comes to seducing her, the key is to get her to feel comfortable and not forced, coerced or guilted into sex. What she really wants is to feel comfortable around you. She wants to feel safe.  So how about the dirty talk? It’s part of being able to open up sexually like never before in an intimate relationship. To me, its really important, but it has to be done right. Once I get to know her, I’ll ask her, “What do you like sexually? What fantasies would you like to pursue? What do you think about when you masturbate?”

sex and technology

Hey Dr. Chaves, I’m curious about the MMO genre. I don’t know much
about it, but it seems like something I would be into since I’m the young tech type.Can you offer a little help with understanding it?

Thanks, Dave This might be the first question of its kind I’ve ever received. MMO is a fascinating fusion of worlds between sex and technology. The two worlds have always had a close relationship: the first camera shots of nudity, beaver loops filmed on 16mm movie reels, battery operated or rechargeable sex toys, streaming videos online, and online sex fantasy games are examples of this relationship. MMO stands for massively multiplayer online, and these online games are enjoyed with other users via the internet.Usually the MMO term is grouped with more letters to define what type of online sex game. For example, MMOEG means massively multiplayer online erotic games (more focused on seduction, foreplay and arousal), and MMOVSG means massively multiplayer online virtual sex games (more focused on intercourse, oral, anal, etc.). And for those who prefer enjoying their sexual games alone, there is SP, or versions that are single person. SPVSG and SPEG don’t require being online, but the use of a computer.People involved can use their computers to control their computerized avatar selves within scenes, role plays and specific sexual behaviours. If you have the money, toys can be purchased and used on yourself that are synced with the program and that elicit erotic sensations to your body. Pretty advanced stuff, eh? You can choose your favourite fantasy scenarios, which may be brand new or ones you dream of trying: role plays, BDSM, transsexuals, orgies, fetishism, etc. Like your cell phone or computer, technology changes in the blink of an eye, and sex tech is no different. Pretty unique safe sex, wouldn’t you say?

vasectomy reversals

Dear Dr. Chaves, I am 43 years old and am dating a 30-year-old. I had a vasectomy in 2000, a reversal in 2007 and then another vasectomy in 2010. I am very interested in having another child because I am young at heart and my two other children are my life. Is it possible to get another reversal, or is there another way to get my sperm?

Thank you, RogerYou definitely need to see a doctor who specialises in vasectomy reversal and who is skilled in both vasoepididymostomy and vasovasostomy procedures. Your previous doctor is a good place to start, as he knows your case history already. Depending on your specific case, it’s possible to have a second procedure. A number of factors impact the success of a vasectomy reversal: where the previous procedure was done on the vas deferens, how long ago, the amount of abnormal sperm that resulted from the previous vasectomy, possible lowered sperm counts, etc. There are no guarantees, and studies suggest the range of successful vasectomy reversal is about 40% to 45%.Other options: You can also look into sperm harvesting and in vitro fertilisation (IVF). Sperm harvesting essentially extracts sperm from the tubes or the testes, depending on the individual case. Eventually the sperm are joined with the female egg through IVF. IVF has similar rates of effectiveness – around 40% depending on fertility factors of the female and the male sperm. This option is much more costly than a vasectomy reversal and likely in the tens of thousands of dollars range when it’s all said and done. I would encourage you to seek out a male reproductive clinic with doctors who specialise in this field and spend a lot of time evaluating the pros and cons of a vasectomy reversal or harvesting/IVF. With all this talk of surgeries, reversals, harvesting, and money that could put a kid through uni, here’s a last suggestion for our readers from a sexologist who likes to keep things simple: Use a condom.