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Poor guy who’s secretly in love with his female friend. She knows buddy, and she’s not interested:( You sticking around is just giving her what she needs and wants (emotional support, compliments and flattery) while you are not getting what you want (sex and a romantic connection)

So sad!

And gentlemen, this is why you don’t accept friendship from a woman you are interested in!

Curious to know from the guys, have you ever been friends with a woman you weren’t interested in?

And ladies, have you ever had a guy friend who you were 100% sure wasn’t interested in you?

Love to hear your thoughts!

reader’s question

Hi Doc, I might be dealing with a sociopath.
Well, all of my friends seem to think so. When I met Lana six years ago and when we started dating, I was 24. She was 37 and had two kids, and though I didn’t know it, was married (I found out later she had been married three other times).  She was constantly contacting her last husband behind my back until her divorce. We got a house together and she started seeing another guy without telling me. I moved out, he moved in, then he left her, and she came back to me. I think he had her on drugs and finally got out when he saw her true colors. Last summer she started seeing yet another guy, but they broke up. I’ve only seen her sporadically over the past few months, but now she’s texting me and saying she wants me back and that she has changed. We never married, but I’m still hooked on her. Doc, please help me understand her sociopath behavior and tell me if you think Lana could possibly change. What drives me crazy is that she can seem normal to the world but behind closed doors she is a completely different person. I can see the reality of my plight with her, but she is always able to say the exact right thing to lure me back in. Doc, am I just someone she is using until she finds what she is looking for? What baffles me is that when we met I didn’t have money, but she stayed with me for six years. My friend said it was because I put up with her erratic behavior and was an enabler. In your opinion, is Lana a lost cause? Her childhood was difficult and she moved from home to home and so forth, so that is one explanation for her actions. I know she has done wrong, but people can change, can’t they? Barnes – who has been destroyed

Doc Love’s Response

Hi Barnes, Let me ask you a question right up front. All of your friends — not a love doctor, like myself — are telling you that you’re with a nutcase. If it was just one or two buddies, you might take their opinions with a grain of salt. But can all of your friends possibly be wrong about this woman? What are you doing here, Barnes? Why aren’t you listening to them? But you went ahead and fell in love with a woman who is 13 years older than you. You mean to tell me you couldn’t find anyone else on the planet to go out with? Gosh, pal, you must live in a really small town! Then you discover that Lana’s been married four times and you still insist on chasing her around. Don’t you think that a woman’s track record is an indicator — a big red flag — when it comes to how she’s going to treat you? Isn’t the way she got along in her past relationships a sign that you’re in for the same lousy treatment? If nothing else, the fact that Lana was always contacting her last husband behind your back shows that she has loads of Integrity and character. But then she started seeing another guy. Oh, now I get it! Like my cousin Brother Love down in Watts says, “This chick don’t know what the word ‘no’ means when a guy comes on to her.”

In the words of Kermit the Frog, “It ain’t easy being green.” But if he was dating someone besides a pig, he might find that it ain’t easy being short either. Maybe it’s just a matter of biology, but there’s little doubt that many women prefer tall men. Whether it’s accurate or just perception, taller men suggest power, strength, masculinity, and the ability to protect women. Because of this, shorter men have to work extra hard to impress the ladies. And many of them do it with aplomb. For example, Pete Wentz, Nicolas Sarkozy and Tom Cruise may be slight, but they’re all adept at reeling in the ladies. But it’s just the rich and famous men who can sidestep the height issue. Case in point, one of my girlfriends, we’ll call her Carly, actually lowered her normal height requirement of at least 5’10 to go out with a guy who was 5’7. “His body was ripped,” she remembers. “When he wrapped his
arms around me, I felt just as feminine as I would have with a taller guy.” The moral of the story? Taller guys could take a cue from their shorter brethren. If you’ve ever wondered why dream girl is talking to someone half your height, it’s time to get a clue. Just because you’re tall, doesn’t mean you can rest on your laurels. So what can taller men learn from the shorties? Read on and find out.

1. Dress to emphasise your frame

Shorter men know they have to make the most of what they’ve got. Bold prints and baggy clothing? That’s a no-go, unless you want to look like a Muppet. Likewise, clothes that are too small will make taller men look as though they’re going through a pubescent growth spurt. It’s shocking how often tall men will wear pants that are too short or jackets with sleeves that are too short. Sure, you may want to go the lazy route and just pick up something off the rack and not worry about tailoring, but you’ll suffer for it. Women will definitely notice your ill-fitting clothing and run the other way.