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It happens every day! Men becoming dads, not by choice, but by accident.
And not with women they would choose to be their wife, but with women who will cause them 18 years of strife! Brethren, did you have the talk? I’m talking about the talk every father must have with his son. The one every grandfather must have with his grandson and the one every uncle must have with his nephew. I’m talking about the man-to-man talk about women, sex and making babies! The one where a young man is admonished to man up and don’t become an accidental dad!
What is an Accidental Dad?

An accident is an unexpected, unplanned or undesirable event that usually happens suddenly and produces unfortunate, unwanted or unpleasant results. Accidents normally happen through carelessness, unawareness, ignorance, or a combination of the above. One of the worse things that can happen to a man, young or old, is becoming a dad by accident. In other words, becoming a dad through carelessness, unawareness, ignorance or sin.

Beware The Sperm-Jacker As the economy continues to shrink faster than your willy in a cold swimming pool, the last thing you need is more news to get worried about.
Unfortunately for us all, a new threat has emerged and this one’s not out to get
your money, your freedom or your season tickets. Instead, this little menace has its eyes set on something else entirely: your sperm. It might be hard to believe, but a book written by author Mary Pols suggests that an increasing number of women are resorting to rather desperate measures in order to get pregnant, even if it’s by a guy they’ve just met. According to Pols, and others like her, some women who are coming
to the end of their most fertile years are left with no other choice than to get knocked up “accidentally on purpose” — which is also the title of the book. Still confused? Here’s how the scenario might typically unfold: You meet an
attractive, single 30-something woman in a bar, and quickly things lead to the bedroom. As you fumble around for a condom, she insists that it won’t be necessary; she’s on the pill and claims to have regular health checkups. Alarm bells should be ringing right about now, but by this point, curse of man, you’re not really thinking with your head — or at least not the one up top.
Flash forward a few months, and you pick up the phone to learn that impossibly — or so you thought — you’re going to be a daddy. Guess what? You’ve just been sperm jacked.

the sperm-jacker profile

You’ve probably already met the type:
mid- to late-30s, single, childless, career-driven, and slightly wary of everything she sees and hears. You shouldn’t confuse her for a cougar though, who is merely an older woman looking for a good time with a younger man. Instead, the sperm-jacker has a different agenda; one which is entirely more sinister, and she’ll do whatever it takes to achieve her goal. For purely biological reasons, sperm-jackers will prey on younger, more virile and potent men, whether subconsciously or not. If making a baby is the underlying motivation behind her seduction, she’ll target those who
appear to be genetically superior. Clearly, the woman wants to be selective in her criteria for identifying the potential father of her child. Here’s what to look out for when being targeted by a sperm-jacker:

You can see her taking stock

If she’s admiring your physical features noticeably more than what you actually say, she may be after something other than your company. Does she casually question you and your family’s medical history? Does she pay special attention to things like your teeth and hairline? Even if she doesn’t realise it, there will be signs that she is sizing you up as a possible donor.

She is nonchalant about the need for contraception

For an older woman not to be concerned about the risks of having unprotected sex is mind-blowing, and it should have you immediately questioning her intentions. It is virtually impossible to be of that generation and not be highly aware of the dangers of HIV/AIDS.

You find yourself in an interesting situation: You’ve meta woman you like, you’re really enjoying her company and the sex is great. But you just don’t feel like you can fully commit. You’re hanging out with her, say, two nights a week. You’re staying over at her house, and she’s staying at yours. But you’re also still going out without her, playing the field and open to meeting new women. You’re just not ready yet, whatever your reason (maybe you just got out of a relationship, you’re dating at the moment and want to be careful before jumping into the next relationship, or you’re looking for more experience).Wherever you’re at right now, it doesn’t matter, because as long as you’re honest with yourself and about what that woman means to you right now, you can open the door to having multiple sex partners.

Don’t mislead her

Throughout my life there have been many times when I’ve slept with multiple women on a regular basis, and I enjoyed it. It’s a lot of fun to be able to sleep with somebody on a Monday night and sleep with someone different on a Tuesday night, and I felt no guilt about it at all, because I had a wonderful time with all of them. The key is that I was open and honest with every woman I was sleeping with. I expressed to each of them that I wasn’t looking for a relationship at the moment, but that I still enjoyed and appreciated the time I spent with them. I never misled them down a path of thinking that we were exclusive or that we were something more.Now, if they ever ask me if we’re exclusive, I’ll always, always tell them honestly, “I can’t be exclusive right now.” I never hide the ball or avoid the question. If they are not comfortable
with it, then it’s their decision to stop seeing me. I am OK with that, because when it comes to relationships, I never try to take more from her than I can give to her. Whenever I had multiple sex partners, I found that being honest was the best thing to do. It was the only thing that was fair for both of us, and I didn’t deal with unnecessary stress in my dating life. Sleeping with more than one woman can be a lot of fun. Sure, it’s great for the ego. Sure, it’s a blast going from one woman to the next. But if you’re doing it, there are some other key issues you need to consider besides the obvious one of being honest with all of them.

Give her a choice

I want to reiterate that you must tell each person you’re with that you’re also
sleeping with somebody else, that you’re not into being exclusive right now, but that you’re still enjoying your time together. You must always be fair and let her know where you’re at so she has the choice to look for something else if she wants to.

Money TalkMoney: Everybody wants it. Everybody needs it. But should everybody talk about it? Let’s face it, money is just about the most awkward topic of conversation there is in the world. And it’s often the reason friendships break up or business partnerships sour. Why is that? Because money is the one subject people lie about most. People tend to stretch the truth when it comes down to talking about money. This is no less true in the dating world. People do all kinds of things to influence how others perceive their finances. Some men conceal their money so they can be assured the woman genuinely likes them; some men spend money they don’t have with
careless abandon with the hope of impressing a woman; some men think women will only date guys with money. Either way, I can tell you many stories about the deceptive advertising that happens with money.Take my client Joe. He was dating a woman who grew up travelling around the world on yachts with captains and cooks. Her father was very, very rich. And she was rich too (she had a trust fund). She was expected to marry a man who was as rich and successful as her dad was. Joe was determined to win her over at all costs. Joe felt he needed to impress this woman by catering to her
luxurious lifestyle and giving her what she was accustomed to getting. Joe advertised himself as rich, successful and a world traveller. He painted what he thought was her perfect picture.But Joe is not rich. He is a man of modest means – certainly in comparison to what she had. He earns an average salary and could not afford the luxuries he was buying and the way he was wining and dining her. As a result, he acquired huge debts. Joe did what no man should ever do; no woman is worth getting into debt over, but more important, he shouldn’t have lied about his financial status.

Deceptive advertising

What Joe did is deceptive advertising. He made himself out to be something he isn’t. He sold this woman an illusion, a lifestyle he could never, ever sustain. So by the time Joe had the money talk with her, she was beyond disappointed. She felt Joe had no integrity and that he wasn’t a man comfortable in his own skin. Joe had lied, and as we all know, lies are not the best foundation for a relationship.So Joe was not only out of money, but
he also didn’t get the girl. No woman is worth doing what Joe did for this one. I don’t care how hot you think she is. You work too hard for your money to waste it on a relationship built on lies and that has no chance for long-term success. You don’t want to wind up like Joe. In fact, you want to avoid the need to have a money conversation altogether. Period. The rule is simple, and you must follow it: Never, ever date outside your means.