Dating Advice for Men- Attracting Tips, How to Talk to Girls

We all know how it goes; you stick it out through the tough times, you get driven crazy by each other’s bad habits, and, for the most part, it seems like things are going great. Then, only moments after you burn your little black book, seemingly out of nowhere, your partner ends the relationship.This is not a rare story. And it always seems to happen to the guys who feel like they’re giving 100% of themselves – and perhaps therein lies the problem. But why? You constantly told her you loved her, and it seemed like you were with her all the time. Well, that was the problem. If you were smart enough to follow the 15 Commandments of Dating, then chances are you know what to do to make a relationship work. But, on the other hand, there are 7 things that can kill a relationship quicker than appearing on Jeremy Kyle. By making sure that you don’t ever commit one of these deadly sins, you can (almost) guaruntee years of loyal devotion and commitment from your lady that will make your life immeasurably easier.

7 Deadly Sins

The myth that there are certain things men can do to destroy their romantic relationships is true. We all know that cheating or blowing your cash on strippers will rightly push her over the edge, but there are a few less obvious things that you may have never considered. The following is a list of things that can ruin your relationship.  Read ‘em, learn ‘em, and for God’s sake, put ‘em to good use.

Deadly 1

Don’t come on too strong
A woman knows when you are coming on strong, and chances are that she will either interpret it as desperation. You don’t want to give her the impression that she is the absolute best you can do. Let her know that you care about her and that she is special to you by all means; just don’t start worshipping her from the first meeting.

Deadly 2

Don’t become whipped
Most women look for a strong man that can take control of a situation. If you come across as an easily controlled mummy’s boy, then she’ll likely never be able to respect you. Make sure not to lose your identity either. You are who you are and she knew that when you got together. Once she thinks that she can change that, you’ll be wearing matching outfits before you can say “bed and breakfast.”

Deadly 3

Don’t lose control
You should aim to start out with the overall control of the relationship, and as long as you maintain that control, you have, well, the control. Don’t disrespect her, and equally, don’t let her disrespect you. Be sure to stay strong and maintain the respect you deserve. Once you lose control, chances are she will expect you to spend less and less time with your friends. But since your mates are an outlet to let off any steam generated by your relationship, you need to keep them around  to maintain a healthy life, not to mention your sanity.

Deadly 4

Don’t lose confidence
It’s a fact, confidence is sexy, regardless of gender. But, if you end up losing confidence in yourself, it’s likely she will do the same. If a woman does not have faith in your abilities as a man, then she will begin to lose the attraction that she once had for you. So make sure to hold your head up high at all times.

Deadly 5

Don’t let sex get boring
Once your sex life becomes boring and predictable, the whole relationship will follow. Keep it fresh and keep her interested at all costs. If she is always wondering what you are going to do next in bed, then she has no reason to fantasize about anyone else. Try surprising her by actually following through on some of her sexual fantasies.

Deadly 6

Don’t become insanely jealous
Let her know that you care, but don’t become so jealous that she starts to resent you. If she had a couple of male friends before you began dating, then there is no reason to worry about it. What’s acceptable in your relationship is up to both of you, so don’t become too bossy if you want to hold on to your partner. And if you can’t accept her having male friends, then just move on.

Deadly 7

Don’t talk too much
When she says that she wants to know everything you’re thinking, she doesn’t mean literally. For a quiet life, sometimes it’ll keep both of you happier if you keep your mouth shut. When she asks if you were looking at another woman, deny it, or better yet, say, “What woman?”

Keep your head up

No matter what you do, maintain spontaneity and use common sense, and you should be okay. Ladies don’t want boring guys who don’t think before they act. And remember; you have to be ready to adapt these basic ideas to any given situation at a moment’s notice.

If you begin to question how you should react in a certain plight, just try to figure out which one of the commandments is best suited to the situation and adapt it. If it doesn’t work out, don’t worry; there are plenty of women out there that you can mess up with.

You think she’s happy. She sounds pleased. She’s making all the right noises.
She’s moaning and breathing heavy. She came…you think. Or did she? She could very well be faking it. To men who are able to come quickly and easily with a few thrusts, faking it seems alien. Why pretend? Why not just come? Well, it’s not always that easy. The reasons women fake it are often as varied as women themselves.

She wants to stroke his ego

A lot of women simply don’t want to hear a man ask them why they didn’t come. The reality is, for a lot of women, sometimes it’s not that easy to come, and they don’t come every time. This isn’t to say a woman isn’t enjoying sex. She very well may be enjoying everything, but an orgasm isn’t a requisite for taking delight in having sex. Sometimes she needs a mind-blowing orgasm and other times she just wants to be intimate. So rather than have a man keep pounding at them until she’s chafing, it’s just easier to pretend.

She is too inhibited and holds a fear of losing control

If she’s the type that has the perfect hair, the perfect job and the perfect
wardrobe, she may well be afraid of losing control by allowing herself to orgasm. Dr. Ava Cadell, sex therapist and author of the upcoming book Sexy Little Book of Oral Pleasure, says “a lot of women don’t want to be seen as out of control because they think they’ll look ugly or weak or vulnerable.” A woman who is afraid of looking messy, of squirting, having you see her “O” face, looking fat, or otherwise doing something “embarrassing” may be unable to let go enough to let herself climax.

Fear of pregnancy / STDs

If she’s had a past abortion or simply is worried about contracting a disease, those concerns could be playing in the back of her mind while she’s having sex with you. The result is she’s unable to focus on the task at hand which is enjoying the moment with you. A woman in this situation is going to need time and a very nurturing safe environment if she’s going to feel relaxed enough to allow herself to let go and enjoy sex without fear. And of course, make sure you always wrap it up! If she knows you take your sexual health seriously, she’ll likely feel more comfortable.

She doesn’t know how to get off

Unlike men who have easy access to their penis all the time, women are left sometimes equally as dumbfounded as men when it comes to the female
body. Men grow up masturbating at a young age. However, many women often don’t learn about masturbation until their well into their 20s, and even then it’s a complicated situation. Between the G-spot, the clitoris, vibrators, fingers, and everything else that’s going on, women often don’t even know how to make themselves reach orgasm, much less tell someone else how to do it.