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It’s bad enough that you might have inherited your parents’ health risks, but
did you know you might have inherited their attitudes too? Researchers have long known that attitudes and beliefs can be passed down within families. The methods used to transfer beliefs can be subtle and silent. Political views might be expressed with one huff and a television channel change. Racist views can be expressed through body language and social behaviour. Now new research shows there is an intergenerational connection to sexism, although the more powerful influence might surprise you: mothers.A new Spanish study of adolescents and their parents showed that mothers taught sexist attitudes to both sons and daughters more than fathers did, but fathers had specific influence on their sons. While it seems crazy that women, who are the victims of sexism, might be the ones propagating it, the factors, again, are subtle. The researchers suspect that mothers are more powerful in general because they likely spend more time with children, might buy them gender-specific gifts, and assign them to traditional gender-biased chores.

It’s the little things

The road to sexism is a prickly path, with both men and women playing a role. Daily instances of sexism often go unnoticed — and therefore unchecked — through seemingly innocuous acts, like referring to women as “girls” while never referring to men as “boys” or calling a mixed gender group “guys.” Would we ever refer to a mixed gender group as “gals?” Research has shown that even “benevolent sexism” can be harmful. Benevolent sexism includes polite manners and gentlemanly behaviours that reward women for traditionally feminine behaviour. Cultures that have high rates of this brand of “positive” sexism also have very high rates of negativity towards women who do not fit the mould of a traditionally feminine woman.

Is holding the door sexist?

So what’s a guy to do? Are you damned if you do, damned if you don’t? Well, kind of. The truth is that just as there is a wide range of masculinity in men, there is a wide range of femininity in women. Some women feel flattered and empowered by gentlemanly gestures like an offer to lift a heavy object or to install a computer system. Other women feel this is an insult to their abilities. The rule of thumb is to avoid treating women as feeble and weak in the workplace and to ask before you offer help to a woman in general. A simple, “May I get that door for you?” can help to avoid a lot of misunderstandings. Studies on combating racism have lessons for sexism too. The best way to cure it? Have empathy for the other sex.

She’s got a lot going for her, that Abbey Clancy. For a start, there’s the chirpy personality — admittedly annoying to some, but give us cheery over moody any day of the week–. Then there’s her high-flying career as a model and TV presenter (the shambolic World Cup Live show was James Corden’s faulty). And not least of all, she’s a stunningly good-looking girl, that a good portion of this country’s male population would give their right arm to get close  to.This week, Clancy took the plunge with Peter Crouch as they walked down the aisle. This despite persistent reports in the media less than 12 months ago, that the lanky England striker had been setting up an away fixture of his own with a Spanish prostitute, whilst on a stag do. It wasn’t something he denied. All of which begs the question, why exactly is it that Abbey Clancy and many other footballers’ wives like her are so willing to forgive and forget when it comes to their partners sleeping around? If we’re being honest, in Crouch’s case, we can probably rule out looks being a factor. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: one of the main reasons men cheat is that their partners let them get away with it. Ignoring bad behaviour breeds bad behaviour. Once the trust is gone in any relationship, you’re on shaky ground for sure. Of course, Abbey isn’t alone. In fact she’s in very high profile company: Toni Poole, Colleen Rooney and Cheryl Cole and Stacey Giggs are just a handful of her fellow WAGS who’ve welcomed their cheating partners back into their lives after a tiny bit of grovelling.