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Not tonight, love.When you first hooked up, one look from the missus was all
it took for your engine to rev up quicker than a pimped-out ride from The Fast and the Furious. You were, to put it bluntly, like a dog in heat, but those first throes of passion are long gone, and your girlfriend has since lost her almost God-given power to make you happy between the sheets. She may have seduced you with her looks and charm, but if you’re dealing with bad sex months after that first night of intimacy, then she might as well look like Whoopi Goldberg. Not that you would tell her that. Unless you possess a heart of stone like Simon Cowell, you’d feel pretty bad watching your girlfriend suffer a Bridget Jones-style breakdown after telling her she’s failing miserably in the bedroom.But make enough excuses to avoid a close encounter or drop enough hints about what she should be doing, and your girlfriend will eventually catch on. Here’s what to do to if bad sex is ruining your relationship.

Rule No. 1: Fake an illness

Since the dawn of time, women have used phony ailments such as headaches and upset stomachs to get out of having sex. But two can play at that game. If the stars have aligned and the moon is in the right place, she might be feeling amorous and up for a night of passion. You, alternatively, would rather sleep, watch sports or do almost anything instead of enduring another night of  passionless sex. It’s not you; it’s her.Yawning at least once every few minutes should do the trick. If that isn’t enough to ward off her advances, then make regular trips to the toilet and proceed to groan loudly enough for your girlfriend to hear. She’ll soon be colder than a streaker in the midst of a Canadian winter.

Rule No. 2: Be cunning

We’ve already established that you can’t just tell the missus how bad she is
in the sack. But a little scheming can go a long way. Ask her if there’s anything in particular she’d like you to do when getting intimate. Not only does it make your girlfriend feel special, but it also gives you an excuse to tell her exactly
what you want. Women love to talk, so use this to your advantage.

But this is a relationship advice site, you’re wondering…

True, true.

Your career matters just because in any given day, you will spend more time at your job than with your significant other, or doing anything else, really!

And something that takes up so much of your time (not to mention energy) has an effect on your relationships. If your job makes you happy and gives your day meaning, that positive energy has a way of profoundly effecting your love life.

On the other hand, if your job is mindless, and you know you could be doing something more…
or so stressful that you dread daily stepping into your office…
or just simply NOT what you truly want to be doing with your life…

that negative energy will also affect your relationships.

My husband loves his job. He gets to build things every day. He built the Bellevue Towers! (pictured above) He’s also built the Federal Reserve in Washington, the most advanced water treatment facility in the world, and right now he is building a Cancer Research Center. I’m kinda gushing about him, I know. Can you tell he’s my hero?!

I asked him what he liked about his job and this is what he mentioned:

• being challenged everyday
• seeing the finished product
• using math in his job
• the fact that he starts and
  finishes a project and goes onto something
  new so things are constantly changing
• working with his hands

Let me tell you, there is NOTHING more freeing and more wonderful than being married to a man who loves what he does for a living. He inspires me. He makes me believe in my dreams as he’s already fulfilled many of his dreams. He makes me believe anything is possible.

And because he spends the majority of his day doing something he loves, he’s a content, happy man.

That’s the best part.

Growing up in a strict Asian household, all I ever heard was “Be a nurse. Be a teacher. Be a lawyer. Be a doctor.” God bless my parents; they were amazing. But my mom’s sister chose her career, and my dad chose a career that involved little risk so he could be confident that he would be able to support us.

Nate’s mom told him something different: “Do something you enjoy, and pay your bills.” I’m thinking we are going to use that model for our kids.

A massage therapist once told me “Do what you love, and the money will follow.” I believe in this. I truly do.

So if your path doesn’t look “typical,” who cares?! This is your life. This is your happiness on the line. It will affect your relationships, I guarantee it. If nobody before you has gone down the path you’ve envisioned for yourself… be brazen. Be BOLD.

Look at Taylor Swift. One of the first singer/songwriters, singing about her personal life and even mentioning people’s names. She made personal narratives into songs. The new path she created made country music mainstream…

Someone told me her concerts sell out within a matter of seconds!

Back to my point: When you hate your job, you start thinking work is a chore, when actually work is a blessing.

I think the secret to happiness is having meaningful work, meaningful relationships, and fun things to look forward to.

Some people put all their eggs in one basket, hoping that a career will fulfill them. Alone, it cannot.

Others put all their eggs in the relationship basket, hoping that this guy or this girl will help them reach a state of perpetual bliss…

The truth is, neither, on their own can carry that weight of being the ONLY source of joy.

And when your work is not meaningful, and you’re not doing anything to change that, it creates misplaced pressure on your relationships to fulfill you in a way that they weren’t meant to.