Dating Advice for Men- Attracting Tips, How to Talk to Girls

My last article talked about oneitis, the tendency for men to fall too hard for one girl before they have a chance to gain mutual interest. This article will go into detail about how to stop yourself from liking a girl too much and too prematurely.

1. Act sooner rather than later.

When you meet an attractive girl, you should make your go ASAP. Why? Because when you notice her, that is when you will start thinking about her.

And the more you reckon about her, the more you will like her.

The more you like her, the more you will be nervous.

The more nervous you get, the more insecure you will be.

The more insecure you are, the less confident you appear to women.

And the less confident you are to women, the less attractive you are to them.

Knowing this is how it plays out, the moment you meet a woman is when you like her the least (until you get to know her).

This is why you have to strike it while it’s hot! When it comes to women, the clock is a ticking bomb. If you don’t act quickly, you will just find yourself daydreaming about her beauty. You will idealize her and place her on a pedestal without even knowing it. You’ll start thinking silly equipment like, “I wonder if she has a nice laugh. I bet she has a sexy laugh…”

And then every time you see her again, you get more nervous. You may be nervous the first time you meet her, but that is the least nervous you will be compared to if you wait.

Acting sooner rather than later helps to cure oneitis because it doesn’t give you the chance to dream up this ficticious character. You get to know the person immediately. And the more you get to know a person, the more you will see they are flawed just like everyone else. People seem less intimidating, the closer you are to them.

Space makes intimidation.

So close that gap!

2. Don’t talk to your friends about her.

This is not a hard and quick rule. At the very least, you shouldn’t be talking to your buddies about her more than you are really talking to her.

This rule is to get you in the right mindset. If you have the time to talk to your friends about her, it means you missed your opportunity to dive right in. I don’t know if I’ve ever mentioned this term “Kamikaze.” When I was in school, if a guy was about to approach a woman, his buddies would be behind him before he made his go, chanting “Kamikaze! Kamikaze! Kamikaze!” As you may know, kamikaze is an honorable death. That’s what the buddies were implying, that their friend was about to approach a woman, a painful rejection akin to honorable suicide.

Most of the time, your buddies can’t really help you out, just because they can’t make the go for you. If they can help you out, the value your friends can offer you does not compare to the value of approaching a woman immediately. When you approach her immediately, you don’t have the added nervousness of waiting in anticipation. You just go in immediately. You will still be nervous, but you won’t be unnecessarily nervous because you haven’t been plotting it out, deliberating and psyching yourself out.

The more you talk about a woman to others, the more you will like her.

This is just a fact. Especially if your friends don’t know her and they are just going by what you say. Because you don’t know her, all you see is perfection, no flaws. So your actuality is distorted and you start to like her more and more.

If you are talking about her more than talking to her, this is when you know you need to go cold turkey and stop talking about her.

Talking about a woman less helps to cure oneitis because the less you talk about a woman, the less you reckon about her, and the less you reckon about her, the less you like her.

3. More action, less plotting.

What guys don’t know many times is that you need to approach a woman early on because the process is usually not a one time thing. Many times you have to keep approaching her over and over. This is the reason why you have to control your view. If you’re not going to approach her early and often, STOP thinking about her. Why give her a place in your mind? When you give her place in your mind even before you start dating her, you’re making her larger than she is. You’re “huge dealing” her. Because it’s a hard task to stop thinking about someone, I just advise men to stop plotting and do more active pursuing.

There’s no reason to plot. Plotting makes you look more staged and less natural. You have to go with the flow of conversation. Because it takes two to make that happen, you really can’t practice anything before hand. You just have to make the approach. Introduce yourself. Question her how she knows the host. Talk about family, jobs and what she does for fun. Keep it light. Compliment her. Bonus points if you can make her laugh. Just take this in rank and go for it. No plotting. Plotting will cause you to overthink it, and overthinking it will make you nervous.

4. Don’t overthink it.

My brother was telling me about the girls he liked and didn’t like in institution. He noticed that the girls he liked didn’t like him back, and the girls he didn’t like were the girls who really liked him! Or he’d notice that when he stopped liking a girl that’s when she started liking him. Can you relate? The reason this happens many times is because a man is usually able to be himself around women they are not interested in. They have not anything to lose, so they don’t even reckon about it. They are natural and simple to talk to.

When a guy likes a girl, it’s harder for him to be himself. He has more to lose so he thinks about what he’s doing. He overthinks everything. My in rank is to reckon of women you are interested in the same way you reckon of women you aren’t interested in. Here’s the caveat. You reckon of them in the same way, but you handle them differently. Your mindset and plotting process needs to be:

I’m getting to know a new friend who could possibly be a romantic interest.

That way when you talk to her, you are comfortable BUT you are still complimenting her and flirting with her. Eh!!! Seems hard! It is, but with practice you can do it.

5. Meet every beautifiul woman with a discerning mind-set.

She does not get the green light just because she is gorgeous. You approach her not to convince her to go out with you, but to chat her up a bit, paying concentration to any red flags.

Your goal in getting to know her is not to make her be with you but to see if there is inner beauty to match her outer beauty, to see if you want to be with her.

See how the tables turned? Realize that all you’re going by is looks when you first approach her, so if she rejects you right then and there, you’re only missing out on a hot chick. There are plenty of hot chicks. And she’s only rejecting you based on your appearance. She’s not giving you a chance at all, and her rejection is not personal. She doesn’t know you as a person, so she’s not rejecting who you are. It’s humbling to be rejected, but humility makes people attractive. Just hug that you are attracted to only certain people and that’s the same with women. Dust yourself off and go on.

The whole point of prequalifying is in addressing that beauty is not all that is valuable in a relationship.

As you already know, dating can get pricey for men! Why not prequalify women before you take them out on dates? That way, you’re not just trying to take out women merely because they are gorgeous. Raise the bar! You work hard to make a living. Remember, beauty is just beauty. Attraction is vital, but in the long run, external beauty fades. You need a woman of inner beauty. That’s why you have to prequalify her.

Of course you’re not going to get to know her very deeply with just introducing yourself and having a couple of minutes of small talk, but at least you’ll be able to weed out women who already show you red flags in those few minutes.

Maybe you’re new to prequalifying. You have no thought where to start, or what to start looking for. Click here to read an article about what to look for in a woman. That will be a fantastic starting point to help you be more discerning about the women you date.

Why women value being prequalified:

• It shows you want them more than just for their looks or their body.
• It shows they are not just a piece of meat, that you care about their non-external traits as much or more than their external appearance.
• It shows you are being attentive, paying concentration to what she is saying.
• She’s not getting a free pass just because of her appearance. She feels challenged to prove she is creditable of dating.
• She sees that you’re confident and not begging.

6. Pursue multiple women

You’re not a player unless you tell a woman you want to be exclusive but you still date other women. When you’re pursuing a woman and neither of you has brought up the subject of exclusivity, you are free to date other women!

3 Benefits of Pursuing Multiple Women:

1. Pursuing and dating multiple women helps you not be so nervous with the one you really like.
2. It makes women not so intimidating.
3. It gives you experience talking to women.

I questioned my husband (one of the most confident men I know) why he was so confident when he met me in high school. He said, “Well, all I knew was that you were attractive.”

And that’s it guys!!! That’s exactly it! When you meet a hot girl, you have to have that mentality, that they have MORE to prove than just being gorgeous.

All Nate knew was that he was attracted to me. It didn’t carry a lot of weight in his eyes. He told me he’s met many attractive women, but when you get to know them, sometimes they lose their attraction.

Basically, if you just look at beauty as only one thing next to other many equipment you want in a woman, then when you approach an attractive woman, you won’t be so nervous.

You will take more chances, take more risks because you don’t have much to lose. All you know at that point is that they are attractive on the outside. If they don’t give you a chance to know more, then you lose very small.

You can’t be confident and have oneitis. It’s like the stock market. It’s hard to feel confident if all your eggs are in one basket. If you know you can diversify, then you have greater confidence. It’s the same thing with women. If you have oneitis and only this one girl will do it for you, you have so much to lose! So pursue multiple women until one of them (that you also like) shows mutual interest and you want to only see her.

Excellent luck guys!

It would be to know the disease of “Oneitis” and go through the steps to cure it.

What is Oneitis?

Oneitis, as some dating coaches have called it, is the tendency for single men to fall head over heels with a woman without first prequalifying her and securing exclusivity.

It comes from the root word “one” as in a guy is obsessed about one girl. He likes one girl too much and usually for no excellent reason except she’s cute! This causes the guy to not be his best self, which is his authentic self, and in turn makes him too needy. He is basically idolizing her.

It is the nice guy disease. Simply place, it is liking one girl WAYYYY toooo much, before you get to know her or before you become an item.

Men with oneitis give off a needy, desperate vibe. Oneitis makes a man unnecessarily nervous. You stop being yourself because you like her so much and don’t want to risk losing her. You stop taking risks because you don’t want to risk losing her. The conundrum is you should be taking more risks.

You have to nip oneitis in the bud ASAP, as it will GREATLY inhibit your skill to attract a woman.

My brother had oneitis in institution. He would reckon about a girl a lot. In his mind he plotting how much he liked her would be directly proportional to how much she would like him back. The thing is, thinking about a girl so much won’t bring you more success. It will really hinder your success… Only action and pursuit will bring you success.

The Rule of Sequence

You see, life has a way of making equipment simple or hard for you based on if you follow what I call, The Rule of Sequence.

For model, a woman who follows the ideal “First comes like, then comes wedding ceremony, then comes the baby in the baby carriage,” will probably run into less drama, less risk, and greater happiness and security than if she were to change the sequence of events. If she were to do baby then wedding ceremony and then expect for like to fall right into place, there’s just no guarantee that it will.

The Rule of Sequence as applied to dating scenarios ideally goes in this order:

First comes attraction, then comes prequalifying, then comes exclusivity, then comes like.

This ideal scenario and sequence of events looks like this:

1. A man finds a woman attractive.

He doesn’t start liking her or obsessing over her or assuming she is an incredible person just because she’s gorgeous. He has yet to find that out, so he’s not really that nervous. He doesn’t have much to lose if she rejects him because he doesn’t even know anything about her except that she’s excellent looking. He understands that attraction is not all there is in having a fantastic woman. She has to be honest and have integrity, she has to be warm and tender, she has to be unselfish and reckon of others and not just herself. Those are just some equipment he’s looking for.

2. A man sets out to prequalify the woman.

So, instead of missing his opportunity to get the ball rolling, instead of going home and deliberating his plot of action or talking to all his buddies about this hot new girl, he doesn’t waste any time thinking about her. He goes straight into action. He does this because he doesn’t want to psyche himself out. He’s just going to approach her. So he approaches her and is able to be himself because he’s not begging for her concentration. This next period, the “prequalifying” period is vital to him because without her meeting these other qualities, she loses her attractiveness. This is how the conversation goes:

“Hi, I’m Zach, what’s your name?”

“Cynthia,” she says.

“That’s a gorgeous name. Mind if I join you?”

“Sure.” (no enthusiasm)

“Can I buy you a drink?”

“Yeah, why not.”

“I’ve never seen you here before. Believe me, if I had seen you before, I would’ve remembered… AND this wouldn’t have been our first meeting.”

She smiles.

“So, what do you do?”

“I’m a real estate attorney….”

You see, Zach’s conversation flows, he’s talking to her like you would talk to a weirder at a party. He’ll toss in a couple compliments to make sure she knows he’s interested in her romantically if the appraoch and the asking to buy her a drink don’t spell it out. Other than that, he’s just getting to know her like a new buddy you’d meet at a party. Trying to find connections. Trying to see where the mutual interests lie. He’s comfortable. He’s not going to question her out if he senses any red flags. He’s discerning. He’s using this time, not to convince her of anything just yet, as he’s not persuaded yet himself. He is using this valuable time to “prequalify,” or basically get to know her just a small bit to see if he wants to take her out on a date.

This is the step most guys miss or wait too long to do (the longer they wait, the more nervous they will be)

3. A man sets out to date her exclusively.

Once Zach has the feeling that this woman is not only gorgeous but there are no red flags and he still wants to get to know her more, Zach will take her out on numerous dates. After numerous dates, if Zach feels like he only wants to see her and doesn’t want her to see anyone else as well, he will bring up exclusivity, saying,

“Cynthia. I really delight in your companionship and I want to take it to the next step. I don’t want to see anyone else. I just want to be with you.”

He doesn’t question her. He just states his desire and waits for her reaction. This is a man who knows what he wants and isn’t worried to state it.

4. A man is free to be obsessed and fall in like.

After a man has secured exclusivity, then and only then does he really “fall in like” with her. Then and only then does he verbalize his like. Why fall in like with someone who isn’t committed to only see you? That doesn’t make any sense. Sure, he likes her a lot, but he’s withholding all that really mushy, gushy, sentimental stuff until he has the safety net of exclusivity. He doesn’t tell her he’s “crazy about her” on their third date. He doesn’t want to scare her off. If she agrees she wants to be exclusive, that means she’s ready to hear the sentimental stuff. She’s ready for you to let out all your obsessive feelings for her. But until then, a man shouldn’t fall in like with a woman… or if he is falling in like with her, he shouldn’t verbalize it until he has secured exclusivity.

What Happens When You Don’t Follow the Rule of Sequence

Instead of following this ideal sequence of dating rituals, many men with oneitis find themselves doing it out of order. They do attraction and then fall right into like… It ends there for many guys. If it goes any further, they do exclusivity, then maybe they qualify once they are already in a relationship. You’ll find guys in relationships who’ve done it in this order thinking, How did I end up with this crazy bitch? And the answer to that is because you weren’t discerning when you were trying to pursue her. You were too busy trying to convince her to be with you that you forgot to evaluate if she was really a excellent person.

What a Guy with Oneitis Does

Here’s how it happens. A guy sees a hot girl, and the minute he sees her, he is mystified and starts thinking equipment like, Omg, she is my dream girl! He watches her from a far, taking note of her every small cute movement and has persuaded himself that he must have her. Weeks have probably gone by where all he does is reckon about her and reckon about what he should say; he wonders what kinds of equipment she does after work, and basically, before he even has a chance to meet her, he is already obsessed and putting all his eggs in this one basket. By the time he really makes “the go,” he has built her up so huge in his mind that he’s bound to be nervous and insecure. He is bracing himself for this BIG POSSIBLE REJECTION, that because of the huge erect up, is going to feel like a UFC fighter knocked him in the jaw…

And ultimately, that’s usually what happens. He goes up to her and is all a bundle of nerves and she’s thinking, What’s this guy’s deal? He’s a bit weird.

Or, oneitis can happen to a guy who is attracted to a girl but instead of pursuing her straight away, he lands himself in the friend zone. That happens to Tom in 500 Days of Summer.

If you want to see a guy who clearly has oneitis, watch that movie.

What a Guy Without Oneitis Does

The guy who doesn’t have oneitis is the guy who gets the girls. Here’s how he does it:

Hmm, there’s a hot chick. I’ll go talk to her. As they’re talking, he realizes, Wow, she’s really into herself. Then she taps her friend next to her, points to a woman across the room and they start gossiping. At that point he’s thinking, And she’s really catty. Not cute. Finally someone says a upset and she starts talking about her ex in gory detail. That’s the last straw for this guy. He’s outta there. He realizes Wow, and she’s kinda jaded and bitter about her ex.

You see, he follows the Rule of Sequence. He is attracted to a woman, but instead of land back and falling in like with her from afar, he really makes a go right then and there. He doesn’t go home and plot his course of action. He doesn’t talk to his buddies about her or try to psychoanalyze her from a far. This is because he understands attraction is just attraction. He needs and wants more than just a pretty face. So he approaches her.

He approaches her, not to beg her to go out with him, but to get to know if there’s more to this woman than just a pretty face.

This is what I mean by “prequalifying.” She doesn’t automatically get the green light just because she’s gorgeous.

Instead of just accepting her just because she’s gorgeous, he talks to her and tries to get to know her. As he’s interacting with her, he’s being discerning, watching out for red flags, getting to know if this woman is as gorgeous inside as she is on the outside.

At this point there is no “like,” no “obsession,” because the woman has yet to prove that she is a excellent catch. Why waste any time giving her space in his mind or his heart if she’s not even creditable of being there?

All the while, the woman he is interested in senses this vibe that she’s not just getting by on her excellent looks. She also senses that this man is in it for more than just her beauty. This intrigues her. He appears confident because he’s not begging for her concentration. He gets extra points for being inquisitive and attentive. All around everyone wins.

Okay, are you persuaded that oneitis is terrible news??? Below are 10 signs that you have this disease.

10 Signs You Have Oneitis

1. You worry too much about what that hot chick will reckon of you.
2. You come across as nervous, needy, or clingy.
3. In your mind your plotting process is, If I don’t have her, then my whole world will crash down.
4. You have an unhealthy romantic fixation, obsession with a woman you are not in a relationship with yet.
5. You “like” her before you even get to know her. Women sense your “need” for them more than your “desire.”
6. You reckon about her more than you really talk to her.
7. You talk to your friends about her more than you really talk to her.
8. You forget to really do the “prequalifying” stage. It’s just attraction… then like. You place too much weight on attraction.
9. You meet a hot girl and automatically become intimidated by her beauty.
10. You’ve dated women just because they were gorgeous even if they treated you terribly.

Remember guys, beauty is just beauty. That’s all it is. Some women are born with it genuinely, some work hard at it. All women know that it is powerful. I remember one guy saying, “Why are all hot women bitches?” Maybe there wouldn’t be so many hot bitches if guys washed-out more time prequalifying women instead of automatically deeming them valuable and creditable of their concentration merely because of their looks.

My next post will deal with the “cure.” Hurrah! There’s a remedy for this disease! Subscribe for free to get notification whenever I circulate that post.

Men, do you identify with these symptoms? Women, have you ever had experience with a man who had oneitis? What was your reaction?

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Before we start, here’s a small side note about where this blog is heading:

The Art of Charm guys pointed out a statistic that shocked me:

10 % of the guys get 90% of the women.

So many more single men have been commenting on my site that I feel compelled to know the world of pickup artists. I want the nice guys on my site to get the inside scoop on how to get women so that women aren’t falling for just pick up artists. I want the nice guys to be in the running!

I reckon there’s a lot of valuable in rank out there, and even if many of it is used with the incorrect motives, I reckon if agreed to the right guys, it can be used for excellent, to attract and keep women for the long haul. That’s my goal in sharing this stuff. I want to separate the excellent stuff from the stuff that is deceitful, malicious or just outright game playing.

For all the single women who read my blog, you’ll get the inside scoop so you’ll at least know what’s going on. My hope is that it will make you more discerning with men. I’ll still have articles to help you attract men. And for all the coupled men and women readers, there’s still more for you, since I’m in that stage and will permanently have a upset to say about long term relationships.

This is a continuation of the last post, again material full from episode #115 of the Art of Charm with some of my view in the mix. For more in rank, check out howtotextgirls.com

Today we’re talking about mindset. I wanted to write a completely separate article on mindset because it’s so vital. It might even be more vital than what you really text.

It’s not about just the script, but the mindset.

Check out these statistics: 60% of communication is body language. 33% is vocal tonality. 7% is words, logical content.

With texting, you remove the 60%, and the 33%. All you have is the 7%. But because your mindset impacts your words and how you come across, it’s vital to be in the right mindset.

With mindset comes the wisdom of how to say it and when to say it.

How to be in the right mindset:

1. Send it and forget it.

Don’t sit there with your phone in your hand going, Oh yeah, that’s a excellent one. I wonder what she’s going to say…

It’s going to tempt you to send a follow up text, “So what do you reckon?” That’s not excellent. It shows you’re literally sitting there doing that. Waiting around. People can tell when you’re literally hanging on to every word they say and are too quick to respond.

It also doesn’t bode well with your psyche if you’re sitting there thinking, Did she get it? What is she thinking? Does she like it? Do I sound like a loser? I shouldn’t have sent that. Is she out? Is she thinking about me?

You don’t want to be the guy worried and nervous. Worry and anxiety? Two words that don’t fare well with the thought of a manly guy. If you don’t send it and forget it, you’re going to thinking, Did she respond to each of my texts? Was it surrounded by 15 minutes? This stuff does not help your game.

2. Meet a lot of women.

Many guys may be shocked that I encourage men to date and pursue multiple women, agreed my “traditional” stance on relationships. I don’t reckon pursuing multiple women makes you a player. You become a player when you commit to one but don’t drop the others. Really, no woman has a claim on you until you become exclusive. Once you reach that point, it’s vital to be a one woman kinda guy.

But, until one sticks around and you both want to see each other exclusively, or at least one of them shows interest and you want to focus all your concentration on her, then why not text multiple women! While you’re waiting for one girl to take real interest in you, text all of those women! If you meet a lot of women, it’ll be simpler to do the first point: to send it and forget it. Plus you’ll have the added benefit of not looking needy just because you’re not putting all your eggs in one basket.

3. Remember it’s not a huge deal.

This is texting. This is as low risk as it gets. If she doesn’t text back straight away, or at all, or is in a terrible mood, don’t get mad! Don’t get emotionally immediate! Don’t let any of it screw with your confidence. It’s just a text. It’s like getting pissed off about getting dumped by your girl friend in second life. Or the Sims. If you’re doing point number 2, it will help you remember point number three. No response from Sue? Next. Go on to Trish, or Rachel, or that hot librarian who reminds you of Kate Bosworth. What was her name?

4. Take risks.

Become a social scientist. If you’re not sure about what reaction you’re going to get or if it’s appropriate, send it anyhow. You want to use that more with original people, strangers. A girl who you just met. You can get away with more with strangers. You don’t have much to lose. Worse case scenario, you can just be like, “Whoops, sorry! incorrect person!”

5. Don’t give up too easily.

You know how if somebody’s in a terrible mood, it does’t matter what you say, you’re already going to be kinda annoyed with them? Remember this when or if you get cranky text message responses. People, especially women, filter their conversations based on their mood. So if she just got in a fight with her dad, didn’t get the promotion she’s waited 6 months for, and was stuck in traffic for two hours, and then she gets a text from you, like “I can’t hang out with you because you’re distress” she might be like “Fine! F**k you!” So keep that in mind. And for crying out loud, USE emoticons. They help in maintenance equipment light and playful. They help add to that 7%. They help a woman differentiate between joking and being serious. That same phrase with an emoticon smiley face might have gotten a different response.

6. Reckon before you text.

This point can be likened to “reckon before you converse in.” Unlike with talking though, it’s not just a distant memory that a woman can replay in her mind. It’s literally a upset she can read over and over and over again forever. What does he mean by this? Does he mean… or does he mean? What is he trying to get at? She can call an emergency girl friend meet up like Carrie and her clan from Sex in the City to hyper analyze the entire thing. The point is…

With this in mind, before you click send, question yourself, Is there any other way this could be interpreted? It’s texting, and even if it is low risk, you can’t take it back.

How do you know if you’re texting too much?

These are four vital points. If you are noticing 3 out of the 4, then you’re in distress. If you’re only noticing 1 or 2, you’re probably fine.

• Her responses are slow- an hour and a half, a day.
• She isn’t engaging or “hooking” (asking questions back or going along with the banter),responding, or investing in the conversation.
• One word answers. “yup” “cool” “nice” “sweet” “uh-huh” – just being polite
• She doesn’t initiate conversation ever.

If the opposite is happening, then you’re doing it right.

If she’s saying “When are we going to hang out?!” That’s the clearest indication that she wants to go on a date. She won’t get any clearer than that. She won’t be like, “Take me out on a date. Tomorrow. 8 pm.”

How to Respond to Two Common Texts

“Who is this?”

If she doesn’t even remember you, say a upset silly like,

“lol your future ex-husband!”

It’s cool because it will compel her to respond either way, even if it’s a sour response. You’re at least still in the game. She will be curious because it’s a small puzzling for her. It shows interest (husband) but also shows that there’s still room to find out if it leads anywhere or NOT. (“ex”) Then you can go straight into logistics. Don’t be like “Duh, it’s Steve.” or “Waaahh, you don’t remember me?” or just “Jordan.” That’s no fun.

“You’re such a player. I bet you say this to all the girls.”

With all the light banter and “flexting” you’re going to be throwing out there, a girl’s going to wonder how you got to be so damn charming. And so she’ll toss this loaded statement your way. Here’s how to dodge it like a freakin’ genius!

“What about players do you find so attractive?”

It’s pointing the finger away from you. It’s also not really answering her question so she’ll reckon you’re a small bit mysterious because you’re not very direct.

or you can go with it in a I’m-really-a-player kinda fashion:

“I’m down at place of worship picking up ancient ladies right now.”

It’s so outlandish that she’ll be like he’s really not a player. But it’s way more original, light and amusing than just saying, “I’m not a player!”

Whatever you do, don’t be like, “Why do you reckon I’m a player?” That points the finger directly at you, in a negative light. That will just get her enumerating the reasons why. She’ll be like, hmmm, well… and then she’s automatically in negative plotting mode with you as the subject. You’ll be in a lot of distress.

Guys, I 100% choose with this entire post. And the last post. If you don’t remember anything just remember not to ever text her, “what’s up?” As a woman, I can’t STAND when people text me “what’s up?” Not just guys, but anyone. It’s such a lame waste of my time when I get those texts. It makes me feel like the other person is bored out of their mind and needs a upset to do, but is too bone idle to reckon of a upset more. That person is putting no effort and is basically asking me to place out all the effort with a thoughtful text. Ehhh!!!! That is my largest texting pet peeve! I don’t even dignify it with a response. EVER.

Okay, gentlemen, ready to start flexting??!!!

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