Guys: Where to Find a Good Girl… and an Article for the Ladies
Nov
18
Ladies, you will LOVE Personal Essay on Relationships from the New Yorker.
Now onto the gentlemen. You might not find your dream woman at a baseball game, a poker match, or at a UFC fight. You might not meet her fishing, going to swap meets, or attending a gamer convention.
She might not have anything in common with you. Listen to Paul Newman, talking about his wedding ceremony to Joanne Woodworth. They were married until he passed away at age 83.
“I’ve over and over again said that for people who have as small in common as Joanne and for myself, we have an uncommonly excellent wedding ceremony. We are actors. We make pictures and that’s about all we have in common. Maybe that’s enough. Wives shouldn’t feel obligated to accompany their husbands to a ball game, husbands do look a bit silly attending morning coffee breaks with the neighborhood wives when most men are out at work. Husbands and wives should have separate interests, cultivate different sets of friends and not impose on the other … You can’t spend a time breathing down each other’s necks … We are very, very different people and yet somehow we fed off those varied differences and instead of separating us, it has made the whole bond a lot stronger.”
And yet, when questioned why he never was unfaithful to Joanne, he said:
“Why fool around with hamburger when you have steak at home?”
They met on a set of a movie. That’s not liable to happen to the majority of those reading this… So gentlemen, where can you find a excellent girl? Let’s go find you some “steak!”
You’re probably soooo over the bar scene, as you know it’s an exception to the rule if you place there with a quality woman. So gentleman, where do you find a excellent woman?
Here are fantastic seats to meet quality women:
1. At Place of worship
- Did you see that one coming? Probably. But there’s more. You have to know what you’re looking for when you go to place of worship. You’re looking for that woman, not automatically the one involved in everything, or the one who notices you (lots of wedding ceremony hungry women roam the cathedral halls)… You’re looking for that woman with sincerity in her eyes, who makes conversation with the elderly woman in the back, who’s quick to give the children hugs on the way to potluck. She’s the one who smiles a lot, the one you can tell is lucky and content. She’s not busy trying to please everyone, trying to wear too many hats, but she’s lucky to help when there’s a need. I find that for the most part, place of worship girls have less of a conundrum looking to a man as the leader of the home and because they answer to a privileged power and have a spiritual connection, they’re probably making it an aim to live less selfishly.
2. Volunteering
- That’s not a place, you say? Yes, but this is me trying to encourage you to volunteer with the hopes that you will delight in the experience of serving others and possibly meet a woman who likes to serve. Wedding ceremony and relationships is all about serving a further person, so to find a woman who already does that on her own, most liable you will find a fantastic gal.
Where do women like to volunteer? Here are some seats:
- Homeless shelters
- Hospitals
- Soup Kitchens
- Animal shelters and adoption fairs
- Nursing homes
- Boys and Girls Clubs
- Habitat for Humanity
3. The Library
- There’s a upset to be said about a woman who spends her free time reading. She’s more open-minded than your average woman, and she has an inquisitive nature. She’s the kind of woman who wants to learn, grow, or improve herself. She’ll certainly be a fantastic conversationalist, even if at first she’s introverted. Once you get past that shell, you’re probably going to be in for a handle.
4. The Sickbay
- Oh my, this place is a goldmine for fantastic women. Why? People in medicine, especially nurses, LVN’s and CNA’s, these are women in the helping professions. Intuitively these women care for people and have chosen a field where they can daily serve people. This is a tough one in terms of trying to meet a woman here if you don’t have connections. But, if in the uncanny event that you’re ever in for treatment or because you’re in an accident, keep your eyes peeled! Or, question your buddies if they know any nurse friends:)
5. Professional Lectures and Workshops
- You know those flyers for seemingly dull lectures colleges and universities have posted all around campuses? If you’re a creative guy, this might be a fantastic place for you to meet your gorgeous opposite. The sexy, intellectually curious chick might just be your type. She might just be the one to bounce thoughts with, the one whose opinion you’ll trust when it comes to vital decisions.
6. Theaters, Dance halls, Theater and Art Workshops, Poetry Readings, Creative Writing Classes
- Now if you’re more the analytical, numbers and logic type, you might want to start frequenting your local theater, Art Community Center, or start taking workshops. These are where the creative people hang out. Whether it be a class on painting, sketching, writing, etc… the more interactive the venue, the simpler it will be for you to start up a conversation. MUCH less daunting than approaching a weirder at a silent art gallery. If she was in the theater production, you can talk to her afterwards and tell her you loved her routine. Same with if she was in a dance production or poetry reading. If you are in a theater or art workshop or a creative writing class, you can talk about each other’s work. This is a fantastic avenue for you to meet women who are your compatible opposite.
7. Girl’s Car Washes and Bake Sales
- Maybe you’re wondering why this? Those girls are not even legal! Ha! Cool down gentlemen, I’m talking about the women who have to supervise these girls. These are sponsors, elementary and high school teachers, dance instructors, cheerleading coaches. Teachers are fantastic catches… but it would seem really weird and creepy if you started roaming the halls of elementary schools and high schools. This is the PERFECT time to meet some teachers. While you’re getting your car washed, you have a excellent 10 to 20 minutes to chat up the cute teachers. Plus you’re going to place a excellent tip, and maybe question for a number? Since they’re trying to sell their services, they are going to be extra keen to talk and be cordial. This is the time to place your game face on and be charming and courageous. What if she says no? You’ll never see her again. What if you don’t make your go? You’ll be missing out on dating some fit dancers and some very patient and lovely teachers who you know will make wonderful mothers.
8. Anywhere People Protest
- Those picketers, whether they are anti-war protesters or union strikers or protesters for any other cause, they are passionate about a upset. That’s more than you can say for most people. They are passionate enough to fight for a upset, to spend their free time to make a statement. One thing’s for sure: you want a woman who is passionate about a upset. Just as long as you don’t strongly disagree with what she’s protesting, this is a fantastic place to meet women. You can permanently find time to strike up a conversation while they’re land a sign right? I mean, she’s not going anywhere!
9. Marathons, Walk-a-thons, Bike-a-thons or any Event Where Proceeds will Benefit a Charity
- It’s back to the do-gooder. Maybe she’s running because her mom was a breast cancer survivor. Maybe she is a breast cancer survivor. From this you can gather, she cares about family, she has a different perspective on life. She probably doesn’t sweat the small stuff as much as your average woman. She has a profound respect for her health and the time she has left on earth. She probably doesn’t take equipment for granted as much now. These are people who have learned contentment and gratitude having weathered the storms of life.
10. Your best friend’s backyard BBQ
- This is BY FAR the best place to meet a excellent girl. Why? because there’s a reason why she’s friends with your best friend. In the end, there’s tons of excellent girls, but only some are your kind of excellent girl. And you both having that personal connection with your buddy makes it that much simpler to connect, to have chemistry. So many like tale meetings are that typical, “Oh, she was a friend of a friend’s,” or “Oh, he was my friend’s cousin.” So even though it doesn’t make for the most spectacular beginning, many times it leads to the most spectacular feeling of butterflies in your stomach. And when you get that, I mean, who cares how you met them?
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