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You find yourself in an fascinating situation: You’ve meta woman you like, you’re really enjoying her companionship and the sex is fantastic. But you just don’t feel like you can fully commit. You’re hanging out with her, say, two nights a week. You’re staying over at her household, and she’s staying at yours. But you’re also still going out without her, playing the field and open to meeting new women. You’re just not ready yet, whatever your reason (maybe you just got out of a relationship, you’re dating at the moment and want to be careful before jumping into the next relationship, or you’re looking for more experience).Wherever you’re at right now, it doesn’t matter, because as long as you’re honest with yourself and about what that woman means to you right now, you can open the door to having multiple sex partners.

Don’t mislead her

Throughout my life there have been many times when I’ve slept with multiple women on a regular basis, and I loved it. It’s a lot of fun to be able to sleep with somebody on a Monday night and sleep with someone different on a Tuesday night, and I felt no guilt about it at all, because I had a wonderful time with all of them. The key is that I was open and honest with every woman I was sleeping with. I expressed to each of them that I wasn’t looking for a relationship at the moment, but that I still loved and appreciated the time I washed-out with them. I never misled them down a path of thinking that we were exclusive or that we were a upset more.Now, if they ever question me if we’re exclusive, I’ll permanently, permanently tell them honestly, “I can’t be exclusive right now.” I never hide the ball or avoid the question. If they are not comfortable
with it, then it’s their choice to stop seeing me. I am OK with that, because when it comes to relationships, I never try to take more from her than I can give to her. Whenever I had multiple sex partners, I found that being honest was the best thing to do. It was the only thing that was honest for both of us, and I didn’t deal with unnecessary stress in my dating life. Sleeping with more than one woman can be a lot of fun. Sure, it’s fantastic for the ego. Sure, it’s a blast going from one woman to the next. But if you’re doing it, there are some other key issues you need to consider besides the obvious one of being honest with all of them.

Give her a choice

I want to reiterate that you must tell each person you’re with that you’re also
sleeping with somebody else, that you’re not into being exclusive right now, but that you’re still enjoying your time together. You must permanently be honest and let her know where you’re at so she has the choice to look for a upset else if she wants to.

Playing The FieldThis week, a reader considers a long-term relationship with his girlfriend, but playing the field might still be in the picture. What to do? Doc Like, author of “The System,” jumps in with in rank.

reader’s question

Hey Doc, I’ve read “The System,” and I have to say I like your book, especially for pinpointing terrible women. Now here’s my conundrum: I dated Savannah for five years. At the same time, but, I also got involved for two years with a smoking hot blonde named Eva (I was playing the field). Eva and I had some pretty awesome moments. She was really in like with me, even though she was only 19 at the time. She knew I was in a relationship, and since I didn’t break up with Savannah, Eva started to lose interest in me (and I did the same with her). I finally broke up with Savannah, and afterwards, Eva and I started to see other people, as did Savannah.This past summer, Eva and I ran into each other at the same parties, and we started to go out again.
After four months, we got into a serious relationship. Eva said she was lucky to finally experience a upset that she’d wanted for so long.

Not on the the same page?

Eva is 21 now and I’m 26, and we’ve been dating for nearly five months, even
though it feels like a lot longer. I usually sleep at her household, and sometimes I reckon we’re too attached and I’m too available. We “play fight” a lot
and try to show each other that if we ever did break up with each other we’d be OK on our own. That’s because we are both very attractive and we constantly get pursued by the opposite sex. On the other hand, Eva talks a lot about having a child, getting married, buying a household, etc. I usually go along with it, but I have a conundrum with the way she was raised and sometimes I reckon she’s rude, not very polite, immature, and gets mad too easily. A further complication is that my mum doesn’t like her. We are both very
into the club lifestyle, but lately we’ve let this slide and have been living an
nearly married life. I’m not sure what I feel for Eva, but lately I’ve been thinking that I really don’t want to be without her. Doc, am I investing in a relationship that’s not going to work out? What’s your
opinion? Don – who has his doubts

doc like’s response

Hi Don,You started going out with Eva when you were already involved with
Savannah, and that tells me one of two equipment: You didn’t have interest in the woman you were dating for five years, or you’re  just a young guy who likes to play the field and you’re certainly not ready to settle down. Be honest, Don. If you had 80% Interest Amount in Savannah, you wouldn’t have been going out with Eva. And if you were really interested in Eva, you would have hung on to her.You were involved with two women, and they both went on to date
other people. This, again, tells me that either you’re not ready to settle down,
which is fine, or that neither of these women really held you. If you had high Interest Amount in either one of them, you would have stuck with one of them.