Dating Advice for Men- Attracting Tips, How to Talk to Girls

You reckon she’s lucky. She sounds pleased. She’s making all the right noises.
She’s moaning and breathing heavy. She came…you reckon. Or did she? She could very well be faking it. To men who are able to come quickly and easily with a few thrusts, faking it seems alien. Why pretend? Why not just come? Well, it’s not permanently that simple. The reasons women fake it are often as varied as women themselves.

She wants to stroke his ego

A lot of women simply don’t want to hear a man question them why they didn’t come. The actuality is, for a lot of women, sometimes it’s not that simple to come, and they don’t come every time. This isn’t to say a woman isn’t enjoying sex. She very well may be enjoying everything, but an orgasm isn’t a requisite for taking delight in having sex. Sometimes she needs a mind-blowing orgasm and other times she just wants to be intimate. So rather than have a man keep beating at them until she’s chafing, it’s just simpler to pretend.

She is too inhibited and holds a dread of losing control

If she’s the type that has the exact hair, the exact job and the exact
wardrobe, she may well be worried of losing control by allowing herself to orgasm. Dr. Ava Cadell, sex therapist and author of the imminent book Sexy Small Book of Oral Pleasure, says “a lot of women don’t want to be seen as out of control because they reckon they’ll look hideous or weak or vulnerable.” A woman who is worried of looking messy, of squirting, having you see her “O” face, looking stout, or otherwise doing a upset “embarrassing” may be unable to let go enough to let herself climax.

Dread of pregnancy / STDs

If she’s had a past abortion or simply is worried about contracting a disease, those concerns could be playing in the back of her mind while she’s having sex with you. The result is she’s unable to focus on the task at hand which is enjoying the moment with you. A woman in this situation is going to need time and a very nurturing safe environment if she’s going to feel relaxed enough to allow herself to let go and delight in sex without dread. And of course, make sure you permanently wrap it up! If she knows you take your sexual health seriously, she’ll liable feel more comfortable.

She doesn’t know how to get off

Unlike men who have simple access to their penis all the time, women are left sometimes equally as dumbfounded as men when it comes to the female
body. Men grow up masturbating at a young age. But, many women often don’t learn about masturbation until their well into their 20s, and even then it’s a complicated situation. Between the G-spot, the clitoris, vibrators, fingers, and everything else that’s going on, women often don’t even know how to make themselves reach orgasm, much less tell someone else how to do it.